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5 Ways Having 3 Kids Close in Age is Easier Than You Think

By on November 9, 2017
Disclaimer: This post is not to say that having 3 young children isn’t hard sometimes. It definitely can be but overall we make it work and have a good time. I still have sleepless nights or my children fight. 

Happy Thursday! Recently, it seems like everyone is talking about what age gap is best in some Mommy groups I am in. I am in groups for Twiblings (siblings close in age due to things like adoption that more closely mirror twins than a regular sibling set) and Irish Twins (children born within 12 months of each other). We often talk about the struggles and joys of having children so close in age. One thing I have noticed about many of us in the twiblings group is that it seems to be a bit easier for us than when children are further apart in age. This is not to say there aren’t struggles.

The baby stage is rough because you are dealing with two babies who are very close in age (five months for my girls) but are going through different stages of infancy. It’s definitely the hardest thing I have had to deal with as a parent yet. Once I got through that first year everything changed. My girls were on the same level and I felt like I could breathe again. All three of my children were really able to play with each other and I could finally really enjoy them. So here are my reasons why having children close in age is easier than you might think. They are into the same things at the same time. Now they might not be into the exact same things per say. But the nice thing about all of my children being within 2.5 years from each other is they are all into pretend play, dolls or super heroes, legos, play doh and art. I can usually buy certain things that will be for all of them because they will all enjoy playing with it. They share really well. Yes, they can fight over things, it’s totally natural for them to have moments where they suck at sharing but overall my kids rock at sharing. Not only do they rock at it but they learned to do this very early on. My kids really didn’t have a choice but to be really laid back about sharing because there was always a baby or toddler wanting what you have.

So here are some of the things I noticed about having 3 children super close in age that has made parenting a lot easier.

  1. They are very independent. Another perk to having 3 so close in age is they learned to do things on their own because sometimes Mommy or Daddy can’t get to you as quickly as we’d like because someone else needs us right then. I really noticed this because Everly being our youngest is the most independent at the earliest age. It was like she was always trying to keep up and could do things I didn’t even think she could do at her age. Once Ace even got up early with the girls, didn’t wake us up and made them cereal. I came downstairs right after and they were all sitting eating it and were super content. He was only 5!
  2. Your oldest is will probably be a nurturer. Ace has always been a sweet, empathetic child. When the girls were born I noticed how much he loved to comfort them and hold them and help me. He makes sure to hold someones hand when we cross the street, he will help the girls get a snack or get something they want. He isn’t just this way with his sisters either. When he was in preschool his friend was upset because his Mom walked out of the class and he told him it would be ok and sang a song to him to comfort him. His sweet heart is something I am very proud of.
  3. You’re basically a Mama duck. So ever since my kids were walking I have felt like a Mama duck. All of my ducklings following along after me. Not like a crazy mess, one running off this way or that way but literally in a row whether it’s next to me or slightly behind me. My kids have always been so good about just sticking by me like little ducklings do with their mom. They just know that the train is still moving so you better keep up.
  4. They will be very close. One thing I noticed and lived myself is that children very close in age just naturally seem to be close as children. All siblings of course love each other and have a bond of some sort but when you are close in age you are each others first playmates and best friend. My sister and I are only 19 months apart and literally every memory I have of us as kids is us playing together, sharing toys, clothes and friends. My brother is 8 years older than me and I don’t have a lot of memories with him because when I was in elementary school he was already in middle and high school so he was off with his friends. Our closeness came much later when I was around 19 or 20 (so don’t worry if your kids aren’t close now). So being close in age just means you have more in common and are going to experience similar life events at around the same time. Even the 2 year difference (and maybe gender difference?) with Ace and the girls is a different bond than the girls who are only 5 months apart. My girls have a bond like nothing I have ever seen. They are like magnets to each other. They had their own language as babies for crying out loud! Everly is even translates for Ashlyn if she says something we don’t understand. It’s such a different bond than even what my sister and I had and we were very, very close growing up. I really can’t even explain it but they are very close and they are each others everything.
  5. You are a more confident parent. I have a group of girlfriends who are in the same life stage as me. We all had our first babies at the same time and we have a group chat where we talk about everything. We have been through the best and worth times of our lives together. I love these girls so much. I was the first one to have the second (and third) babies of the group. I thankfully had them there to help me at play dates to take a baby and vent and talk to. The fun thing about being the first one to have the most kids in the group is you get to tell them “it’s seriously not that bad having a bunch of kids” “it gets easier” or “it will get better” since you went through a bunch of tough times, sleepless nights and everything in between. You know that if you can go to the grocery store with 3 babies and survive that you can do it again and it’s such a confidence boost as a Mom. Heck, I took all 3 of my kids to Epcot alone (and it down poured) and had the best time. People told me I was crazy to go alone with them but once you realize you can do stuff with all of them and they overall are really good about it you feel like you can conquer anything.

So if you are a new Mom of 3 or pregnant with your third and nervous just remember it will get easier. All my friends can tell you I had a rough first year with all three children. Everly never stopped crying, I felt guilty over Ashlyn not getting that one on one time Ace had, I felt like Ace wasn’t getting enough of me either and I was just overwhelmed. It was a rough year but it made me a more confident and patient Mom. I still have moments where I am stressed and my kids fight but overall I really do think to myself “how is it this easy now?” Maybe I am jinxing myself and we will go through a rough stage again soon or maybe in a few years but till then I am enjoying this time that they are all easier than that first year with 3 children under 3.

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Recap of our trip to Rogers City, Michigan

By on October 30, 2017

Oh Happy Fall Weather! Shout out to all my Florida peeps who are wearing Uggs, mittens and scarfs on this cold day. All you northerners can officially make fun of us.

So I have been a bit MIA because we went to Michigan on Thursday the 19th for my brother-in-laws wedding. It was such a beautiful weekend. The weather was perfection and we had the best time. If it didn’t get so freezing cold there I would move there in a heartbeat. I always get sad when we leave our family up there. Just a heads up this is going to be a super long post on our trip because I want to make sure we remember every bit of it.


We flew up Thursday and this was the girls first real flight, Ashlyn had only been on a plane when she was a newborn so it was really exciting for them. We flew Frontier and it was a really nice plane. Very spacious seats, only downfall was they didn’t recline unless you upgraded to a different seat. Overall a great airline. (Not sponsored but I had been wondering about it prior to flying and am happy to report it was great.)

Anyway we flew into Detroit then had to drive 4 hours to Rogers City. The kids did so well. They played with toys, colored and then we sang Disney songs when they were over all their stuff. The best part was driving down the hills and we would have them hold their hands up and scream. So freaking cute.

We stayed with Branden’s brother Robert and his wife Angie so we got there and hung out Thursday night while the kids watched movies. The next day we went to the hall where the reception was going to be and the kids got to see their cousins Elliot and Russell. It was so cute seeing them all together. After a day there we took the kids to the park and beach before rehearsal dinner. The weather was gorgeous and we took the kids on the rock wall. Ashlyn and Everly were scared but eventually walked back instead of being held. They loved running around the beach too. It was nice just sitting there watching them play.

We headed back to the hall where we ate dinner and our family did a little birthday celebration for all the kids since they don’t get to celebrate with them normally. It was seriously so sweet. They got them each their own little cake and gifts. As my brother-in-law Robert said “I think Gertie was going to vibrate out of her seat she was so happy.”

Saturday was the wedding so I hung out at home while Branden went with his brothers to get ready. Everly and I both weren’t feeling well so we took our time getting ready. I also did our niece Emily’s hair then we headed out to this gorgeous barn where the wedding was. I mean talk about breath taking. I was obsessed. The ceremony was so sweet. They have been together for 19 years so it was just fun to see them be emotional even after all these years.

When the wedding was over our nieces Emily and Chelsea took the kids to their grandma’s house to play while we went on the bus with everyone to take pictures and have some drinks. Definitely nice to get that kid free time since it is so rare for Branden and me to get anytime without kids. I captured a hilarious moment with one of my brother-in-law Rodney’s oldest friends and Branden. The two of them together are so funny and they ended up matching so I was like aw you guys hold hands. Like if you want entertainment these two are the best.

At the wedding we got to see Branden’s cousin and her girls. I was so excited for our girls to finally meet. I just adore his cousin Brittany because she is literally the sweetest person ever and her and Branden (along with her sister Sarah who we really missed) have the cutest relationship. Watching all our kids together was by far the highlight of the trip.

On Sunday we went to Branden’s grandpa’s house where we saw his Mom’s side of the family. The kids were spoiled with a little train type ride. Even the adults got in on it. The kids also made a tiny little leaf pile which was funny. Poor Florida kids thought their tiny pile was something awesome.

Next we headed to Knaebe’s apple farm where they played, fed animals and went on a carriage ride. After that we headed to Branden’s Dad’s farm and went on a buggy ride through their property. They were so nervous but had fun. They also played with these super old trucks that Branden and his siblings played with as kids. It was cool to just watch them experience things their dad did as a child.

This was hands down my favorite trip up there. Seeing our kids playing with their cousins and enjoying such a beautiful place where their dad grew up made me just feel so happy.

I am now on a mission to make yearly or every other year trips up in the summer happen so we can get Branden’s other cousin and her kids up there so we will really have a big group of kids to watch play and grow up together.

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Valentina is ONE!

By on September 12, 2015

I didn’t have a chance to post on Valentina’s actual birthday because work has been crazy but today is my baby nieces FIRST birthday party!


I am so excited to get to celebrate this beautiful little girl. She is such a funny baby. She is very tiny for her age so I often forget she is as old as she is but then you see her running around trying to talk and it’s like oh yeah, you are tiny but mighty. 

I still remember the day this beautiful angel came into the world. My poor sister was in and out of the hospital the week prior and her blood pressure kept spiking. They admitted her I think twice? Then she finally was induced. After awhile they finally broke her water, gave her pitocin and that saving grace the epidural. She slept but kept getting sick (not abnormal) and then her heart rate spiked and I ran to get a nurse. The nurse didn’t take it seriously yet Ashley’s face was bright red and she just looked awful. Her doctor came in and said she had been watching her contractions and saw the spike and wanted to check on her and the baby. I believe Valentina’s heart rate also went up. Ashley wasn’t to 10 but they checked her temperature and she had a fever and by Valentina’s heart rate the same could be said for her. 
Her doctor talked to her about a c-section and told her she had to do it at this point. Her water had been broken and she wasn’t progressing (Valentina was early so this could have been why). I think at this point we were all just worried about the baby and they got her prepped to go in. 
I went in to the waiting room so anxious to meet my little niece. She was born at 1:17am. After they got my sister out of surgery I got to go in and sit with her and finally hold Valentina. She was all puffy from fluids and we joked she looked like a little asian man because her eyes were so squinty and tiny. She had hair everywhere, even on her ears. We couldn’t get over. 
Now a year later she has changed so much. She was born an average sized baby but she can still fit into 6 months clothes, ha! She might be taking after her Aunt Brenna in the short department. She has the biggest smile and prefers to just hang out in a diaper. She is obsessed with dogs like I have never seen before. She will literally lay with them in their beds or play with them over anyone else. She knows what she wants and is determined. She is such a sweet, happy girl! 

She is my daughters’ best friend and my son’s baby to protect and take care of. She has a special place in our hearts. 
We love you so much Valentina!!!!!


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16 months

By on November 16, 2012

Ace,

This past month has been another crazy one for you. You are still a chatter box and learning new words everyday. Your newest sign is “thank you” and you also say it.

You love the song “The Wheels on the Bus” and right now your favorite part is bouncing up and down. You have pretty much stopped hitting your friends making for one happy Mommy. You do hit when you are over tired though.

You love carrying around a blankie and put it over your shoulders but don’t depend on it. You are obsessed with having milk and get really upset when I tell you no milk and give you water.
When you give hugs you always say “aw”. It is so funny. You are still a really great kid. You have your moments but overall you are easy going and happy. People describe you as the baby that always smiles or the happiest baby ever! You rarely whine or get upset. If you are crying when you get hurt we know you must really be hurt. You are starting to cry when you can’t have your way or you can’t have something you really want but it never lasts too long so I am hoping you aren’t going to be too dramatic with the temper tantrums.

Brady is still your favorite person and you two make each other laugh all day. I feel so fortunate to get to experience you two together on a daily basis. You do fight over toys here and there but overall you guys are awesome together. You two really compliment each other because you are exact opposites in every way possible.

You have gotten interested in climbing on things and bouncing on the couch, bed or your little chair.
You are in the 85th percentile in height and about the 50th for weight.

New Words: Apple, Thank you, down, all done, Kayden, Chicken, Bubbles, Mommy (said twice today!)
he repeats a lot of things we say now so I can’t remember all of the new words he says but those are the ones he says consistently and more clearly.

New Signs: Book, Baby, Thank you, Please (Signs it like bath but is trying!)

Firsts
Sat in a booster seat at a restaurant and did well.
Starting to color
Trick or Treating


Shirts: size 18-24 months
Pants: size 12-18 months but 12 fit waist, 18 fit height so we need to get you some belts
Shoe: size 5
Weight: 23.8lbs (15.5 months)
Height: 32 inches (15.5 months)


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Halloween Fun!

By on October 30, 2011

My parents had a little family Halloween party yesterday. It was super cute and fun. We had lots of Halloween treats and a pumpkin carving contest. We dressed Mr. Man in his bumblebee costume and he looked super adorable. My brother’s kids also came and they dressed up and my newest nephew was a pumpkin. We got a lot of cute pictures too. Ace is 15 weeks old as well and he is just getting to be more and more fun each day. Today he was grabbing his new froggy toy and it was just so cute watching him try to grab it and pull it to his mouth. Soon enough he will really be playing with his toys. I just love that little guy so much!

How cute are the ghost ones? My Mom is so cute!  
15 weeks old! 
Adonis and Gavin
My sister got this for Adonis’ first Xmas! 
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Weekend Update!

By on October 25, 2011

We had a great weekend! Friday Branden and I went to an Oktoberfest with some friends and they had different beer venders there giving out samples. I rarely drink so I had a buzz going on, then we went and had food from the food trucks, I love those! My bestfriend Maggie and I split nachos, which were awesome. Bran and my sister had food from a hot dog one and they seemed to like it. My parents watched Squish, which was awesome of them. I don’t know what I would do without their help. I would never go anywhere.

Saturday I met up with some girls from my Mommy Meet Up group. There was five of us and Adonis was the youngest baby like usual. He slept through most of it after he had his bottle but was really good the times he was awake.

Sunday I went to my uncle’s house and had dinner with my parents, sister and cousins. Adonis was of course the center of attention and so cute. I am super close with my cousins so I just love seeing them with him. We also got back our pictures from our photo session last week. We got some really great shots. That’s about it for our weekend!

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Welcome Baby Gavin!

By on October 6, 2011

My brother’s 4th child was born yesterday! His name is Gavin Michael. He was 7lbs 10zs and 19inches long. He looks so tiny to me now. We were able to get a picture of him and Ace next to eachother and he looks so big!

My brother, sister and I with the newest members of the family.

almost 3 months apart! 

Cousins! 
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