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5 Tips for Preparing your Dog for a New Baby

By on July 6, 2017
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I’m Vanessa, mom of one 5 month old cutie named Noah, wife to a very talented media director & music producer, Julio, and blogger over at Dumpy Diapers I’ve been enjoying the past few months as a stay at home mom while on maternity leave, but am currently gearing up to return to my full time job as a teacher of preschool students with special needs. Dumpy Diapers was born of this time I’ve been enjoying with my little guy, as I wanted to reach out and share with others this beautiful sisterhood of motherhood!

Before bringing a bouncing, beautiful baby boy into the world, I was a very happy mom to two precious pups. Our dogs had been part of our family… well, before we even were a family. Our boy, Skillet is 10, and we adopted our little girl Chili, 2, just after our first anniversary. Pets really have a way of working themselves into home & heart, so we knew that making sure there was a positive relationship between them and the new baby we’d bring home was a big priority. I want to share with you some of the things we did that I feel really helped us nurture a healthy bond between our dogs and our baby, that might help you do the same with yours!

Make pet-talk and cuddle time bump friendly.
This might seem a little silly at first, but as highly social creatures, dogs will pick up in your behavioral changes as well as those in your body chemistry and physical appearance as your belly grows. So talk to them about it! Use the word “baby’ and the name you’ve picked out lots while gesturing to your bump. Bring the dogs up close for sniffing. I also worked on “gentle” to teach them not to jump or bare weight on me and baby. Once Noah was born, I continued to use the same terms repetitively, so they would hopefully make the connection. Do I know that they get it? Of course not. But do they seem to? I think so!

Bring home baby’s clothes for hospital-stay sniffs.
While we were stuck in the hospital, my husband would bring home the baby’s hats, onesies and blankets for our dogs to sniff. Because scent is such a big part of a dog’s world, knowing baby’s smell will limit chances that they could feel threatened or territorial, as it will feel less like a tiny stranger invading their home and will create a sense of familiarity.

Give them one-on-one time.
My dogs are not the super cute, baby-loving types you see go viral on The Dodo. They didn’t grow up with Noah. They are now the spurned older siblings, and they definitely get jealous. Yours may be, as well. To avoid your pooches feeling too left out when baby is too tiny for them to be near, make sure to give them extra snuggles, walks and playtime, as well as occasional treats to make them feel special. As hard as it might be not to just lay down when baby is down in those early weeks, invest some time in your pets without your little one. It will make their adjustment into furry siblingdom so much easier.

Little by little.
As baby grows, work with your pets being around and near him. Let them sniff (and lick, if you’re willing) to get to know their new little human brother or sister. Practice gentle petting with baby, and redirect any hair, ear or tail pulling as little one gets more adventurous. You’d be surprised how early your baby can start doing damage (and to your head of hair, too)!

Always supervise.
Even the gentlest of dogs still has animal instinct, so be sure to keep a close eye and stay within arms length when your fur babies are hanging out with your tiny tot.

Our geezer doesn’t care much for his baby brother, but since Chili is younger (and oh so spoiled) she plays hot and cold with Noah all the time. We are constantly using the tips I shared with you today, so I hope you find them as useful as we have! Feel free to share about your own experiences with your pets and babies in the comments below and tag us in your super cute photos @dumpydiapersblog on Instagram. We’d love to see them!

Happy mommin’!

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5 Ways to Encourage a New Mom

By on September 22, 2014

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Being a first time Mom is filled with so many emotions. It’s joyous, incredible, tiring, terrifying and at times frustrating.  It can feel overwhelming in those first few weeks and months. When you don’t have children yourself it can often be confusing on what you should do. Should you leave Mom to have alone time with her new baby? Should you put it out there that you are there for her but leave it on her terms? Here are some of the things I know I appreciated from people and what I have noticed others have appreciated from me as I was able to be there for my friends when they became Moms for the first time. 
1. Don’t just ask if she needs help, be specific on what you will help her with. Most people will never ask for help because they don’t want to inconvenience anyone. Instead of “Call me if you need anything.” Say “I am bringing you guys dinner, what night is good for you?” or “You sleep and I will clean the kitchen, bathroom, floors, ect…” This is better than any baby present you could bring over. Trust me. 
2. Tell her she looks great for just having a baby. Having a baby changes your body and when you are sleep deprived and emotional with a squishy belly the last thing you might feel is stellar so hearing how good you are looking can be super nice to hear. And nothing is more beautiful than a new Mom holding her brand new baby.  
3. Give her a week or two than come by or bring her lunch. People are usually lining up to meet a newborn in the first week or two but after that people slowly stop coming by or checking up on you and it can feel lonely. Most  women are used to being around others while working or just being out in the world. When that newborn is here getting out of the house is can feel like you are packing for a weekend away. Offer to bring her lunch or some wine and a movie for a girls night in after a few weeks have passed. She may feel less tired, more bored and in need of real adult conversation.
4. Ask her how she’s really feeling. When you have a new baby it can feel overwhelming and not what you expect. Yes, you love this little ball of cuteness but you are also changing from being free to do whatever you want, whenever you want to being dependent on a little person who tells you when they need to eat and when you need to change them. They are demanding and new Moms can feel guilty talking about how they really feel. We all know they love their baby but sometimes you just want to say how much it sucks that you aren’t getting any sleep and your baby wants to be attached to your boobs 24/7. 
5. Be selfless. When you become a new Mom you all of a sudden have to become incredibly selfless and it takes a lot out of you. Your baby depends on you for everything and it can feel tiring always giving of yourself. Sometimes all a new Mom needs is someone to be that for them. Having a friend who is willing to give a little more of themselves at that time is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give. Trust me when you have a baby she will return the favor.

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Your Favorite Baby Names of 2012

By on December 30, 2012

With the year coming to an end the age old question is “What is the top Baby Names of the year?” With names like Hashtag and a woman naming her twins after Barack Obama and Mitt Romney we decided to ask what names you liked. It was tough narrowing it down to just ten names but here are the ones that popped up the most. We also put together a list of the trends you all have noticed going on.


2012 Naming Trends

K names: Kylie, Kaylin, Kaylee, Kyle, Kenzie, Kynzie, Kinsey

Names from the Movies

  • Twilight: Jacob, Isabella (Bella), Alice, Jasper, Emmitt, Esme
  • Hunger Games: Katniss, Rue, Clove, Dale, Primrose, Cato

Vintage Names: Eleanor, Evelyn, Penelope, Hazel, Caroline

Places: Georgia, Scotland, Ireland, Charlotte, Tennessee, India, Savannah

Not so Surprising Celebrity Baby Names

  • Blue Ivy (Jay-Z & Beyonce)
  • Tennessee (Reese Witherspoon)
  • Livingston (Matthew McConaughey)
  • Maxwell (Jessica Simpson)
  • Wilhelmina (Taylor Hanson)
  • Keeva (Alyson Hannigan)
  • Exton (Robert Downy Jr.)

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By on July 14, 2011
I have been such a slacker! I need to update more. Nothing major has been going on except I think maybe my mucus plug is coming out. I am going to the doctor today so we will see if there is any progress. Cross your fingers this little boy is coming soon!
36 weeks

4th of July! 
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Good and Bad

By on June 28, 2011

Today we got up SO early (7:30AM) my husband was up waiting for me to get home so we ended up going to pick up some baby supplies. We mostly got breast feeding supplies like bags for pumping, nipple cream and pads. Then I got a cute Mickey onsies since we plan to go to Disney a few times in the fall and winter. We also picked up a bookshelf for his room and a few other random things.

Then when we got home I decided to wash and sterilize all the stage 1 bottles and Branden put together the bookshelf. I think Branden has more of a nesting instinct then me at this point. He gets so excited over anything to do with getting the baby’s room ready. He is so awesome. I can’t imagine how anyone does this alone. I would seriously be lost without him helping me get so much done.

One part of his room


34 week belly I forgot to post.
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34 weeks, Haven’t done one of these in awhile!

By on June 25, 2011

How far along? 34 weeks
Total weight gain/loss: 11lbs
Maternity clothes? Not really, some shirts though.
Stretch marks? Nope, I thought I had 2 small ones forming but I guess I was wrong!
Sleep: It’s been bad!
Best moment this week: Finding out Ace is head down
Movement: He has slowed down a bit but now kicks more to one side since he is head down and curled up into a C
Food cravings:  Icee’s and anything sweet
Gender: Baby Boy! Adonis Scott Eugene Kania, Ace for short
Labor Signs: BH contractions
Belly Button in or out? Innie still
What I miss: Sleeping comfortably
What I am looking forward to: My next apt. on the 7th to see what kind of progress we are making
Weekly Wisdom: People will always tell you the negative stuff about becoming a parent (you’ll never sleep again, just wait for this or that). Don’t waste your time listening to them.
Milestones: Baby moving head down

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Baby’s bedding!

By on June 10, 2011

Today I found clothes for our pregnancy photo shoot! Yay!
We also got the crib mattress, 2 sets of prefolds, a bummis cover, spray for the wipes, snappi’s and his angel care monitor! I was so excited to get the mattress in his room and the crib set up. Not like he can even sleep in it for awhile and most of the bedding will be removed till he is older but it was still fun to set up.

32 weeks 5 days

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Weekend update: Baby Shower!

By on June 1, 2011
Branny and me!

This past weekend was great and a bit overwhelming. On Friday Branden’s Mom, sister and niece all came down. Then we went to my parents, had pizza and headed to the 3D ultrasound place. I can not believe how cool it was. Unfortunately Ace had his face squished to the side but we still got some good shots. I would have loved to have a full on face one but we got close. I think he has my nose but that was the only feature I could see that may have been his or mine.

Pack n’ play from my cousins!

Then on Saturday was our baby shower! I was awesome. We had a co-ed one so it was super crazy. We were going to do a few typical baby shower games like unscramble works and make as many words out of the baby’s name as possible and the belly measure but instead just did the baby measuring one and then a baby beer bottle chugging contest. The best part about it was a girl won the beer chugging one and two guys one the belly measuring game. I was cracking up. I thought it was so funny that it was the opposite of what we thought.

My Coach diaper bag from the amazing Anna!

We got lots of amazing gifts and my friend Anna, who lives in NYC got me a Coach diaper bag! I couldn’t believe it. She is so generous and awesome. I feel very lucky to have such great friends and family. We got a lot of our big items which was great. We got our pack n’ play, jumparoo and play yard. We also got lots of clothes and all our bottles. This baby boy has more things then anyone I know. I swear!

Ace bag from Grandma Renee!

Some of my fabulous friends

Beachy cupcakes

Beach Baby!

Candy Bar

Lots of gifts! Ace is very loved.
Margarita machine for the non-preggers

Sisters and best friends!

My bestie, Kat, and my girls Ashleen and Brielle 
Me, my brother and sister

In the backyard

Our roommate Daniel and us, we love him! 

My family
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